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Mentor Mom Corner: Jealousy

Sunday, June 5th, 2011

My 3 year old is really jealous of my attention these days, especially when my husband gets it. He says things like, “I don’t like it when you hang out with Daddy.” Is this just a phase?

Gina Joyce, wife to Frank and mother of two girls, writes…I think it is totally normal for a 3 year old! We definitely got that with our first, with Kate wanting Daddy’s total attention.

We like to look at it this way in our house: Frank (daddy) steps in and says to Kate or Emma, “Daddy married Mommy. After God, Mommy comes first for Daddy and Daddy comes first for Mommy…Kate and Emma are next.”

Sounds harsh but our two girls are leaders looking for countries to rule AND we want them to know that we are not looking for a KID CEO in our house!

If needed, Frank has said in the past that God is the ruler of the universe, Daddy is the CEO, Mommy is the COO and Kate (when she was 3) would always say, “and I am the baby boss!”

Hope that makes sense. I believe it is important for the kids to understand their role in the family, a respect issue. It works for us…so far!

Gina Joyce
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Holly Barnett
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Jill Moore
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Millye Hale
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Mentor Mom Corner: Expectations, Part 2

Monday, April 18th, 2011

We thought it would be a great introduction to our Mentor Mom Corner to hear from two more of our incredible mentor moms on the very same topic.

Should I expect my 2 1/2 year old to obey the first time,
every time?

Jill Moore, wife to Doug and mother of two, writes…

As parents, it is certainly our desire to bring our children to the point of first time obedience, each time we give them an instruction. This is also God’s desire for our kids and for us as well, since we are His children.

First, you can ask yourself…”have I been consistent in training in this area, and do I deliver consequences consistently for less than first time obedience?” The more you have trained your child at any age, the more you can expect.

Remember, this is a process of molding and shaping the heart. Hebrews 12:11 says “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on however, it produces a harvest of righteousness for those who are trained by it.” So, just like we struggle to learn to obey God in all areas, our children will struggle to obey us.

What we CAN focus on is the harvest of righteousness we are helping to produce in them, rather than how often they “get it right”. Each time they stumble in obedience is a time for planting seeds of truth….the more seeds, the richer the harvest!
So….my answer would be to pray, to train, and to lead your child by example in first time obedience rather than focusing too heavily on what to expect at a certain age.

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Holly Barnett, wife to Dave and mother of two, writes…

In a perfect world, yes, but let’s be realistic.
I’m not saying don’t have that as your goal, but the reality is, that is a very tough thing to accomplish. Some days, you are exhausted and just flat don’t have the energy to enforce obeying all the way with a smile. Or, you might have more than one child and that 2/12 year old knows you can’t discipline while you are nursing a baby, changing diapers, cooking dinner, etc.

That being said, obedience is crucial to effective parenting and it is MUCH easier to train first time obedience in a little one than it is when they are older. This is a battle you must win or your child will not be a blessing to you or to others! Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

How do you do this? By being consistent and explaining what you expect (example: when we get to the grocery store, you will be sitting in the basket and you may not beg me for candy at the checkout.) When they get older, you can explain the reason why. Remember to be age appropriate, you don’t need to explain to your 18 month old why we need to wear a coat in winter, shoes to the store or why they can’t run out in the street. However, you can explain to a 2 ½ year old why we use our inside voice in the library (so as to not disrupt others from their reading.) Ephesians 6:4 reads, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”

Now to consequences, 2 things: First, even families who love the Lord will parent differently as to what they require from their children and how they discipline them. Every family is different. If you have a husband, let him lead in this area and decide with him what your standards will be and how you will discipline.

Second, every child is different. Some kids just need a stern voice or gentle reminder and others need the rod often! Know your child. Also, know it is okay for you to correct each child in the manner that produces your desired result in him or her. In other words, not one size fits all!

Remember, “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” Hebrews 12:11

Holly Barnett
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Jill Moore
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Millye Hale
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Mentor Mom Corner: Expectations

Sunday, March 27th, 2011

Should I expect my 2 1/2 year old to obey the first time, every time?

Millye Hale, Building Blocks mentor mom and incredible mother of three, gives her insight…

I thought this was a great question and I read the question should I “expect”. In reading it this way, I absolutely think you should “expect” your 2 1/2 year old to obey the first time, every time. Now will they? Chances are, no. But, you should “expect” it.

During this life stage are many opportunities to train! We should don t-shirts when our kids turn 16 months….Trainer and trainee!

A two year old is not trained yet, but to extend leniency because they are two sends a clear message and allows a pattern of disobedience to take root. This is our opportunity to train our children toward righteousness (Hebrews 12 :11)! How exciting!

If I asked 10 mothers of 2 1/2 year old children who has the brightest child, chances are 10 hands would go up. At this age- they can say their ABC’s, count to 20, some are even starting to read, and you’re gonna tell me they don’t know right from wrong? These little people are bright and I assure you if you wait until they communicate that they understand obedience and disobedience, you’re way too late. James Dobson says if you start discipline 10 minutes after your child is born you’re 10 minutes too late.

So what does God’s word say about the art of discipline, well in Ephesians 6:4 he talks about discipline and instruction, and in Proverbs 29:15 he calls for the rod and reproof. In training our children, these two (discipline and instruction) must go hand in hand. I can assure you James Dobson is not suggestioning we spank our newborns, but I think discipline begins with a plan. Having a plan in place from the beginning is key, and even more important is to communicate it to them.

What are your expectations for your children’s behavior?
Begin communicating these expectations to your child right from the beginning. Certainly, when our children are really young I believe the reproof and instruction are key and should start right from birth. I feel as parents we set a standard of expectations for our children and this standard must be communicated from the beginning and often. My thought was always to set the standard high as I feel like our children will ultimately rise to the standard we set. In relation to this standard, I always encourage my children to be hurdlers and not to go through life doing the limbo or just enough to get by.

We must understand our role as parents and that is to train our children. All effective discipline must be initiated from a heart geared towards training and not out of anger. They arrive here with sinful hearts and it is our job to retrain those hearts. Always remember, it is not the severity of the punishment that changes behavior, but the certainty. The certainty comes from clear instructions and expectations communicated to your child prior to an offense taking place, and the conviction of consistancy to deliver consequences when the offense occurs!

Don’t look at disobedience as a burden to deal with, but view it as an opportunity. An opportunity to train, while we plant and cultivate God’s word in these tender little hearts that will ultimately take root and shape and mold their character as they grow!

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Titus 2 tells older women to encourage younger women to love their husbands and their children. If you are looking for an older woman to answer any questions or just offer encouragement to your situation, please do not hesitate to reach out to one of our mentor moms.

Holly Barnett
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Jill Moore
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Millye Hale
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Purposeful Planting

Friday, May 7th, 2010

Brown. That is the color of my thumbs. Every plant in my home usually ends up in the compost. It’s tragic. I want so badly to be surrounded by beautiful plants in and around my home. The ones on the outside do pretty well because that’s my husband’s territory. However, there is one garden where I cannot afford to fail. My children. I recently told Irene over at Bloesem: Kids that I want my boys to be “forever brothers.” If I am to succeed in grounding and rooting their love for one another, they must first understand the love of their heavenly father. That is where today’s craft comes in.

I’m a relatively new Mom. Everyday I am faced with new challenges and wonder if I will ever get this Mom thing right. So I seek help. Twice a month our church has an event called Building Blocks, with speakers offering wisdom and insight from all that they have learned through their own journey and God’s word. It’s awesome. I can’t begin to tell you how much I have learned. A couple of weeks ago the topic was Siblings. Millye and Alex (the speakers) shared their wisdom and insight in Purposeful Planting. I have turned the discussion into not one, but two crafts.

Materials for kids:
chocolate chips
chocolate pudding
chocolate cookies
gummy worms
spoon
clear drinking glass

Materials for Mom:
scissors
glue
construction paper
small photos of kids (their face mainly)
popcicle sticks
green paint or marker
coffee beans
scripture printed on paper (your favorite verses for your kids/family)
vase

I told my boys that we were planting a garden and asked them what we needed. My oldest shouts, “Water! Sun!” He was right. But I told him we also needed seeds and dirt with good nutrients.

seeds (chocolate chips)

mud (pudding) and dirt (cookies)

we also put worms in their dirt and mixed it all up

Now, I didn’t plan what happened next and to be honest, I got really mad when it happened, but God works all things for our good and His glory. Because my boys are pretty young (5 and 2) I thought I would let them eat their “garden” while we made our “family garden.” My youngest couldn’t eat it fast enough. My oldest threw a huge fit and started crying because he didn’t like his worms “with all that stuff.” It should be noted that he never gets gummy worms or anything else that sticks in teeth, but he loves them. I began to throw a fit too. Luckily he left the room and we both had some time to calm down. Upon his return, God gave me some wisdom. I asked him if his garden that wasn’t cared for and was left alone without love and nutrients produced any flowers or fruit? He replied, “no.” We then went on to talk about how when we let God take care of us, provide for us and guide us through his words and deeds, then we produce the fruits of the spirit. We both talked about his garden yielding the weeds of anger, frustration and selfishness (in both of us).

We went on to make our “family garden.”pour coffee beans (dirt) into your vase

add nutrients i.e. food and water (scripture) by rolling up the verses and putting them in the soil

paint/color popcicle sticks

cut leaves and flowers out of construction paper

cut out children’s faces from picture

put flowers into vase

We did a little pretend watering as well. We also talked about God creating each child uniquely with their own special purpose and gifts. And while my oldest meticulously cut out the flowers (he’s learning to use scissors) and glued them, I would like to say we talked about how God cares for us daily and provides everything we need, but their attentions spans are that of gnats! Maybe we’ll do this again once they are older.

If you would like to listen to this talk about Siblings online, go here. It’s Amazing. You will not regret it!
Millye and Alex talked about preparing the soil – “intentionally creating a richness where each person feels valued and respected by all.” “Planting in the right environment.” You’ve got to follow the plant tags: full sun – 6 hours, water, afternoon shade, etc. What are your kids telling you they need? Are you treating each child as the same plant or are you giving them exactly what he or she needs as an individual? And on and on it goes. This is good stuff! I apologize for the extremely long post, but there was so much to share. I didn’t want you to miss a drop! I pray that this craft and this talk on Siblings blesses you as much as it did and will my family. xo – Brooke Fish

In my pocket

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

“Time is a gift”, said Antoinette Davis in her talk on Heart of Service. Simple and so true.

For me, that seemed like a great place to begin giving.

Unsure of where to serve specifically, I knew of only 1 place to look.
Upward.

When I’m busy w/ my own agenda, I’m not as available to God or to others. So, I took my to-do list, the one written and the one like a constant rolodex in my head, and put it in my pocket.

Now, some of these items on my list were important, like grocery shopping, doing laundry, and cleaning the house.

But, for a couple of days, I committed to praying before I did each and every stupid little thing on my list. And while there’s a phrase about the devil being in the details, I think God was there instead.

The first morning, I was on my way to bible study. I was early, really early. I drove down the freeway thinking about what I could accomplish beforehand. Ah, BABIES-R-US was the next exit and I needed diapers, wipes, and puffs. Perfect! They’re even open early.

Just before I changed lanes to exit, I remembered my commitment and I prayed for God to lead me wherever He had me in that moment.
I felt immediately like I wasn’t supposed to go. I didn’t think He was going to care about me going to BRU, but that day, He did. I thought, really? Okay, I guess I’ll have to find another time to go.

Kept driving and pulled into the church parking lot. It was 9:40 am and bible study started at 10:30. I was feeling a little silly about being there so early.

As I was about to pull into a spot, another car stopped right in front of me. Plenty of spots, we politely waited for each other to pull in first.
It was an unusually long pause. I looked up and realized it was a very close friend of mine. She was here early too.

My 7 month old had fallen asleep in the car, so I decided to park and work on my study while I let him sleep. My friend walked by and waved. I waved back and then signed that the baby was sleeping, so I didn’t roll the window down.
She walked on and then, DUH!!! It hit me.

Time with her was what God had put on my to-do list this morning. He nearly had to knock me over the head (or bump my car and wave through the window) to get me to comply, but I did. She and I rarely get time together anymore and we needed some, so this morning was both purposeful and nice to be with my dear friend.

The rest of the day went along the same way, without me being quite as slow to catch on. There were a few other interventions to my list and few things that did get marked off.

At the end of the day, did I feel disappointed that I didn’t mark more off my list? Not once.
I spent the day walking with God, allowing the Lord whom I say is my King, to actually be my King and lead me.

If only I could keep this perspective every day. Why is it so hard?

I can admit that there were other days I did this well, but the past few I’ve gone back to running my good ol’ to-do list.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with a to-do list. Some things on mine even involve serving others. But, when my list rules my day, I’m not allowing God to guide me. Even when my heart behind the to-do is good, it may not be where God wants me that day, and better yet, it may be where He wants to use someone else.

So, tomorrow I’m starting a new commitment to pray before each item.
How about doing it with me?

I’ve got one hand (putting my to-do list) in my pocket, and the other one is giving a peace sign. : ) – Sundee McDonald

For more on capturing and cultivating a heart for service in you and your children, click here to listen to Antoinette Davis’ talk.

The First Step is Admitting You Have a Problem

Monday, April 26th, 2010

It has been about a year since Kyle Kaigler first came to me and said, “Hey, I need you to write some funny but true stuff about parenting.” For those of you who have not taken Watermark History 101, I worked on staff for Kaigler in my previous life before having children. And anyone who knows Kaigler knows that once you work for Kaigler, you sort of always work for Kaigler. He is, in this way, a ministry mafia of sorts… but in a more “friends are friends forever” kind of way versus “The Sopranos” kind of way. All of this to say, I have been reflecting on the last year and some of the topics we have covered in this newsletter: help your child learn to communicate. Model thankfulness. Teach them what a life of mission is. Be diligent and consistent in training them in godliness… many things we should be doing as parents.

Well, I am shaking things up this month and suggesting that we spend a little bit of time considering what we should NOT be doing as parents. Fortunately, my behavior this past month in particular has been super helpful in giving me material for this topic. To get the ball rolling, let me share a few parenting tactics that have not worked for our family:

1. Set unrealistic expectations for your children and then be frustrated with them when they do not meet those expectations. For example, try taking two preschool boys from store to store for HOURS, where they are not allowed to touch things, play with things, run off, be silly, chase each other… in short, they are allowed to stand there. Quietly. All morning. Call me from store number three, and let me know how that works out. What am I saying is, you can’t afford to take your eye off the ball for a minute at that stage of the game. Two average preschoolers could bring down an entire store in the length of a phone call. On second thought, just smile and remember every word you say will very likely join your little ones’ vocabulary. See also my five year old’s response to a spilled box of crayons recently: “Oh Lord, why!!!!”

2. Try to get your child out of his whiny, negative mood by snapping and barking at him. The hypocrisy is particularly stunning when you combine a scowl of frustration with something like, “You need to have a sweet attitude.” I don’t know in this scenario if I am the pot, the kettle, or the potato peeler, but I know it’s not good.

3. Ask ridiculous rhetorical questions to which you already know the answer and which serve no purpose other than feeding your own flesh. For instance, “Can you boys not play together for ten minutes without being selfish and fighting over the toys?!” Clearly for those ten minutes the answer was “no”- were you not paying attention? The next time you are tempted to ask this question you might divert yourself with the following, “Can I not respond to my preschoolers like an adult without resorting to sarcasm like a self-centered adolescent?” It’s not pretty, is it.

Unfortunately I could keep going, but I hate to steal all the good ones. When was the last time you took a long look at your “strategic growth opportunities” as a parent? Or to put it plainly: where you are simply missing it with your kids? What would it give our children if we were passionate about not losing our temper with them. About not belittling their problems. About not failing to engage with them because we are tired or lazy… whatever it may be for you. I’m not saying what if we tried to do better at these things; I’m saying what if we were relentless about them. Call it parental spring cleaning, but I’m ready to take out some garbage. The first step is admitting you have a problem, and I know what mine is (as does everyone who walked by us in the paint department at Lowe’s last week). But if you only take one step, it makes for a pretty lame trip. — written by Sarah Stehlik

NEXT STEPS
Take some time to identify the specific behavior that needs to be eliminated from your parenting. Ask the Lord to guide you in this and show you how to “put off your old self… to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God…” (Eph 4.22-24) Come up with clear goals that your spouse or friends can hold you accountable to. Find a good book to encourage you along the way. You can visit our blog HERE for a list of books recommended by the Family Ministries team.

If you have preschool children, have you signed up to receive the Starting Blocks PlayBook? It’s an easy way to build on what they are learning at church on Sundays with projects and activities you can do together with other moms or just with your kids at home. Sign up online by checking the PlayBook box HERE

TIME OUT – 04.10

Spring has sprung

Friday, March 26th, 2010

There’s another D word, more critical and encompassing than discipline, yet it is very, very close in written form.
Guesses? (Can you tell I like games?)

Duh-duh-DISCIPLE.

We are called to go and make disciples of all nations (Matthew 28:19).
But Jinger wasn’t talking that day about all nations, the masses, or even just friends and neighbors. Nope. You don’t even have to go next door to find these itty bitty disciples-in-waiting.

We’ve been specifically assigned these precious children in our very homes as our disciples. It’s a little scary, isn’t it?

When I think of disciples, Peter comes to mind. Can you just picture him all excited and ready to jump right out of that boat to walk on the water with Jesus? Maybe he wanted to be first, maybe he was a bit too anxious, and yes, he got scared and began to sink. BUT, for a brief moment, one beautiful, trusting, faithful moment, he was walking…walking with Jesus in faith.

That’s what I want for my two boys, for them to learn to walk in faith more and more each day, moment by moment. That’s what I want for myself, too.

I know better than to expect that will just happen on its own.
I mean, does a seed sprout and flourish into a beautiful, sweet-smelling flower by simply burying it in the dirt?

My sad little flower bed would say no.
The same is true with our kids.

We have to plant, provide sunshine, water, fortify, protect, and even prune.

It takes effort. Not just once and that’s it. But, this gardening/discipleship is a process that takes time, effort, diligence and patience to yield its crop. Oh how God loves a gardening analogy, and encourages us in Galatians 6:9:

Let us not grow weary in doing good,
for in due season we will reap a harvest
if we do not give up.

And then, when I studied each step, I realized something:
Each one encourages growth. Even pruning (we’ll call it discipline), promotes new growth.

Oh, the amount of pruning required on some days saps my water supply and blazes my sunlight way too harshly. On these days, I fear there is more withering occurring than blossoming.

Maybe it was this winter season that wearied this old plant. I need sunshine, water and nutrients as well. For this job, I cannot be seasonal, only blooming certain times of the year. I’ve got to be evergreen.

Experts say that plants thrive by us just being with them. Ok, TECHNICALLY, it is the CO2 we give off. But, I think the concept goes straight to Jinger’s point: Relationship is the key to discipleship.

Jesus built a close relationship with his disciples, living life with and spending deliberate, quality time with them. God sent His Holy Spirit, a counselor, to continually dwell with us and in us. That is what God wants with us – a relationship. And that’s what our children need with us as well.

I’m tired of trying to function on my own limited resources, while expecting to be a good source of nourishment to my kids.

Spring has sprung, and I’m ready to bloom!

Lord, make me a gardener that plants, waters, provides Your light, fortifies, protects and prunes. Let me not grow weary while doing Your good.

Thank you for your Son, your Word, and your Holy Spirit, who provide all the nutrients I need for life as an evergreen.

You are the great encourager. Help me be one to my children as well, by building them up in Your Word, Your ways, and Your love. Amen. – Sundee McDonald


To hear Jinger’s talk on The Importance of Mom online, click here.

Next Building Blocks Event:
SIBLINGS
April 15, 10am – noon – REGISTER NOW!
How to encourage your children to live, laugh, and love each other. Lots of different factors make the dynamic of each family unique. Come be encouraged by Alex Wagner, mother of six, and Millye Hale, mother of three, as they discuss the causes, consequences and possible solutions to dealing with sibling rivalry. Childcare is provided for this event if you register by April 8.

Getting your groove on

Monday, March 8th, 2010

Any guesses what parenting topic prompts the greatest turnout?
Want a hint? The first letter of the word makes a duh sound. Duh-duh-duh-discipline. (Sounding out letters and words is big around my house these days.)

Discipline. Time-outs, spankings, corrections, obeying, teaching, training, rule following. Whew. When I think of discipline, negative thoughts come to mind.

I’m not really off base, I mean, even God’s word tells us that it is:

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. Hebrews 12:11

And it isn’t just painful. It is exhausting.
At the beginning of her talk on “The Importance of Mom”, Jinger Lord played a very hilarious reminder of how exhausting parenting is: The Mom Song.

I don’t want to go to bed worn out and thinking that the next day will just start it all over again. But some days I do feel just like that.

I want to have FUN. Instead of getting frustrated, I want to laugh about that question that was repeated for the zillionth time, even though I answered it after the first. I want whining to roll off my back, manipulating to be ‘nice try’s, and the day to be filled with 10 times more joy than angst. I want be light-hearted, to laugh and to smile and to, well…

DISCO.
(ahh, another great D word)

Disco? Is she serious?
Yes, yes I am. I mean, wouldn’t you like to trade in at least a few of your crinkled-noses and finger waves for a smile and pointed finger like this each day? : )

When I looked again at this picture, I noticed two things.
1. My finger is pointing upward.
Rather than pointing at the source of my frustration in these trying moments, I want to point toward the source of my inspiration, my hope, my peace-giver – the One with all the answers. After all, if I’ve turned my life over to Him, don’t I think he can handle whining, constant demands, food battles, nighttime struggles, and sleep deprivation?

“Absodutely!”, my 4 year old would say.

2. My attitude is one of joy.
David wrote, “My heart is steadfast, O God; I will sing and make music with all my soul.” Psalm 57:7

I’m not claiming that David was doing disco, but his heart was focused on God, through some very difficult and sometimes painful circumstances. But, God’s faithfulness and promises brought him joy. Joy to sing and make music, and I’d dare say even dance.

So, how about today, we try discipline with a twist (and shout). I’ll call it DISCOpline. (feel free to laugh at me now, if you weren’t already) Let’s make a joyful noise to the Lord. Or, as this disco momma would say, “Let’s get our groove on.”

Lord, help us stay steadfast in disciplining these precious children that You have so graciously entrusted to us. Thank you for David’s heart to remind us that this struggle doesn’t always have to be a grind, but can be with a sweet song and dance. I pray that today we find a little more joy in our day, and a little less angst, knowing your promises are not just for today, but forever. – Sundee McDonald

Next time, I’ll hit more on this steadfastness and what Jinger says is of utmost importance in our job as moms. I’ll give you a clue…it is another D word. ; )
To hear Jinger’s talk on The Importance of Mom online, click here.

For More Information:

Building Blocks is a ministry that connects parents of preschool-aged children with other parents in the same challenging life stage. This ministry provides parents with the training, encouragement and resources they need to raise passionate followers of Christ. We host informal weekly gatherings, at least one speaker each month, and periodic special events.

Next Opportunity:
3rd Annual Easter Egg Hunt
March 18, 10 am – noon – REGISTER NOW!

Hop on over and join Building Blocks for a morning of fun for parents and kids! Bring your basket and invite a friend to this “eggstra” special event. We will fellowship and stuff eggs while the kiddos are in childcare, and then let the hunt begin! Please be sure to reserve a spot so we can plan accordingly.

To be continued…

Monday, February 15th, 2010

You’re sitting on the edge of the couch watching the season finale of your favorite T.V. show. It’s getting more and more intense. As you’re watching, you find yourself leaning forward and creeping closer and closer to the edge of your seat. And at the exact moment when you think closure is coming, answers you’ve been waiting for, resolution to the season’s events…BOOM.

‘To be continued…’ flashes on the screen.

It’s just for a season. That’s what I tell myself often in this life with small kiddos.  I put my own to-do lists, desires, and sometimes needs aside in order to love, serve, teach, and train them. After all, it’s just for a season, right? And in Sarah Stehlik’s wise words (that I repeat to myself nearly daily), “To love is to die, and they are worth me dying today.” I might not do it well, but I truly believe that.

I went to Building Blocks for the topic on School Days. Three moms were planning to speak about their experiences and merits of home, private, and public schooling. Honestly, I wasn’t thinking I was going to get much out of it. 

Don’t get me wrong, I firmly believe in the value of all three. But, you see, we’re set. We live in a great neighborhood with an exemplary public elementary school. We’re close with the many families on our short block and thankful that our kids will be schooling and living life together. School, check.

While just the thought of Reece going off to Kindergarten aches my heart greatly, these ladies reminded me that the time is coming fast and furious.  At the same time, I also began to wonder what my new life will look like once he’s at school. Oooh, lots more time to myself again. Getting my body back into shape, one-on-one time with Zach, showers, make-up and big girl clothes, having lunch with friends every now and then, and even kicking photography back into a small business again.

Seems I was daydreaming, as the speakers continued. I felt the edges of my mouth curving ever so upward with this thought of getting a little more of ME back. And then…BOOM.

God hits with His message for me today:  

To be continued.”

Dude, this season is so NOT going to be over when my kids begin school. Not in the least. It is a new season starting with a whole new cast of characters, set of challenges, wider spectrum of influences, and even greater responsibilities. 

Oh, I’ll be busy…busy in the business of training, teaching, disciplining, serving, and loving my children, whether home, private, or public schooled. 

Lord, thank you for this privilege of being a mother. May I never take it lightly. I pray You continue to prepare, mold, and change me for this road ahead. Much more than academic achievements, I pray my children come to know you, love you, live with and rest in You along the way. Not just for a time, but for all time. – by Sundee McDonald

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Building Blocks is a ministry that connects parents of preschool-aged children with other parents in the same challenging life stage. This ministry provides parents with the training, encouragement and resources they need to raise passionate followers of Christ. We host informal weekly gatherings, at least one speaker each month, and periodic special events.

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HEART OF SERVICE
Friday, March 5, 10am – noon –
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It’s a long journey from a preschooler’s “me me me” to a servant’s heart, but charity really does begin at home!  How do you develop the godly trait of generosity of time, talents, and treasures?  This discussion will explore ideas for teaching and encouraging your preschoolers to begin cultivating a heart to care for and serve others. 

Monterrey Experience – June 15th

Monday, June 15th, 2009

water gamesWell, what an amazing full day of minstry.

The day started with a 6am wake up call and a 6:30 devotional meeting.  Everyone was then set free for 45 minutes of quiet time before breakfast.  And I’m telling you, the food we are being served is amazing.  The three little Mexican ladies do a wonderful job of mixing traditional and American foods at each meal.  And we are really being fed well.

Robbi was feeling much better this morning.  Thanks for praying for her.

After breakfast we loaded up our vans and headed out to three ministry venues.

billy bassThe construction team moved 40 wheelbarrows full of aggrigate from the ground to the second floor of a church TIME is adding on to.  That’s about 17 buckets of aggrigate per wheelbarrow times 40.  We accomplished that in under three hours.

The soccer camp had a very small turn out, but they had fun with what kids showed up.  We announced the camp at tonights park ministry so hopefully there will be more tomorrow.

The group that went to the daycare had a great group of about 20 kids all under the age of four years old.  What a blast they had playing with the kids and teaching them Bible stories and doing crafts with them.  They had a great time.   There are even a few special needs kids there.

This afternoon we went down town to shop at an open-air mall.  It was pretty hot but we were able to go into stores that had air conditioning…a wonderful treat.

park ministry 6.15.09After dinner tonight we went down to the park about a block away and had a wonderful turn0ut for tonights park program.  We played water games, had face painting and tons of bubbles flying.   We performed our spanish version of Billy Bass and friends puppet show and Gary Overman gave his testimony followed by a gospel presentation by the local pastor.  There were close to 80 kids there and that number will continue to grow in the next two days.

Just a few bumps and bruises after the day…the Lord has protected us well so far, please pray for that to continue.

the groupI’m so excited about how our team is responding to the challenges they are being faced with.  It’s great to see the team come together and work together.  I’ll try and attach a pic or two, not sure if it will work or not.

Mark